Rude Neighbor: How would you handle it ?
My neighbor diagonally behind our house, often choses to mow his yard starting a 9 pm on week nights. With the aid of flood lights on his house he is able to see well enough to mow.
How do you handle some one like this ? He is buddies with most of the neighbors and we fear complaining would just make us the "enemy" with him and the other neighbors.
13 Responses
Jennifer K
03 Jul 2010
puppynap2001
03 Jul 2010
i would mow at 6 in the morning
Ask.Kelly
03 Jul 2010
well make him one of ur buddies, go around pop in to say hi blah blah, den just to talk him about the problem, say u sleep early or woteva excuse, ask him for a small favor, don’t mow at 9pm! there u go.
joshnumber21
03 Jul 2010
It seems to me I am answering these kind of questions several times each day. Is everyone a bad neighbor nowadays? What ever happened to neighbors respecting each other? I would tell him to give it a rest and choose a better time to do it.
Debra
03 Jul 2010
Is it hot? Is he old? Some people like to mow at night. It’s a lot cooler. Instead of "complaining" why don’t you just head over to his house and ask him why he’s doing it so late. He may just have a good reason. When my neighbors do something that annoys me, I give them the benefit of a doubt. They are my neighbors and i’ve got to live near them. I just always try to assume that they mean no harm. I love them all and they love me.
luckyboy777
03 Jul 2010
mediate or cus they dumb ass out
Nancy H
03 Jul 2010
feel sorry for him instead,he obviously is so busy that is the only time he has to do his lawn,or he dosnt want to get sunburnt,or he is avoiding his wife.I WOULDNT WORRY ABOUT IT.IT IS ONLY PROBABLY ONCE A FORTNIGHT,let him be.
Geeeeeze
03 Jul 2010
live with it.. if you say something you can end up with an enemy and horrible and miserable living conditions..
Michaela W
03 Jul 2010
What?
That’s really rude.
I would say something to him about.
Floodlights are really bright, and distracting.
Ask him politely if there’s any other time he could mow his lawn because his lights are really bugging ya’ll.
Miss2cute
03 Jul 2010
I would try to become friends with him and one day during a friendly conversation I would just tell him… hey I work early in the morning and I like to relax in the evening and I really would appreciate it if you cut your grass a little earlier in the day… other neighbors probably feel the same way you do
shehzadi
03 Jul 2010
have you tried talkin to your neighbour?
Its not matter of makin enemy, you need to tell them they are disturbing explain politely and if they have brain they will take it on board-
If not then seek advice from local authoreties.
The Sylvan Wizar
03 Jul 2010
There is a saying I have that is original for me that I use as a rule and wish all would embrace it as well. It simply is:
"COMMUNICATION IS A BEAUTIFUL THING" !!!
So many people don’t know how to communicate, nor’ have faith in their ability to be assertive yet tactful and nice and make queries.
What’s worse, is many of us tend to "think things into things". You are already speculating what will transpire and you haven’t even made the effort to address the problem and already you are forecasting more problems with others.
I say, put a little faith in your abilities and that of your neighbor(s).
"Stinkin’ Thinkin’" causes more problems than anything.
Your neighbor mowing at 9:00 p.m. might be the only time he is able to mow. And, of course it’s not every night,….I’m sure.
Funny how the neighbors that we will look at with a bitter taste in our mouth is probably the first one that will be there for you in case of a Tornado or some problem.
Mowing at 9:00 p.m. isn’t exactly a real bad time to mow although not a "traditional time". I’m sure he would mow at 5 or 6 if he could. He may be working extra hours and doing it when he can. The poor guy is probably exhausted when he is done, and, trying to squeeze in home management in lieu of his normal occupation. Poor guy probably doesn’t even get a chance to enjoy his yard.
There are many POSITIVE ways to handle this. Maybe you can offer to mow his lawn at an ideal hour and maybe there is something you can barter for him to do for you.
Mowing at 9:00 p.m. is not a character flaw, and, when we move into neighborhoods where homes are in close proximity to others, there are some sacrifices we have to make whether we like it or not. And, hate to burst your bubble, but, he’s probably well in his rights.
Also; if he is popular with a lot of neighbors,……he probably is a "Good Joe". Maybe you aren’t in this harmonious group for obvious reasons that may be the root of your complaint here.
Just remember, you will get more with Honey than Vinegar.
I happen to have a neighbor that is mean and nasty and she has alienated herself from the rest of us on our road. And, I live in the country.
Homes average probably 75-100 yards from each other here. She chose to treat everyone like bad people and in turn has now isolated herself because she threw back several kind efforts and attempts by us other members.
Anyway; bottom line is,…….the answer to handling someone like this?
Treat them with kindness, respect, and, address your concerns honestly and I’m sure a pleasant result will be the outcome. Anything less, you will reap what you sew.
Snackie
03 Jul 2010
maybe he’s hiding from bill collectors.
maybe he works a different shift than you do. not everyone can be a 9-5er. should all your neighbors check with you and your schedule before doing yard work? would you prefer he not mow it, then you’d be here complaining that your neighbor refuses to mow his lawn. or maybe he should get a job that has the same hours that you have, then he can mow when YOU deem it appropriate. ??? MYOB.